About Brené Brown we can find information easily anywhere we hit enter to her name.
Her web site says: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past thirteen years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.
The upper description is enough to convince me that I should read her books and listen to conferences she attended. But most important that she’s one of the few that researched and published about vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. All vulnerable subjects to our lives.
„Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.”
In her last book Rising Strong we have new lessons and powerful real stories that are life changing to learn about. Brené Brown creates a map of the big and important process of rising strong, and the best way to describe this book is thought this quote:
„If we are brave enough, often enough, we will fall. This is a book about what it takes to get back up.”
There are 3 significant parts of the process and here is something to start from:
„The goal of the process is to rise from our falls, overcome our mistakes, and face hurt in a way that brings more wisdom and wholeheartedness into our lives.”
- The Reckoning: walking into our story while recognizing emotions and getting curious
- The Rumble: owning our story while getting honest about the struggling event
- The Revolution: writing a new ending based on the key learnings from our rumble and use this new, braver story to change how we engage with the world and to ultimately transform the way we live, love, parent and lead.
I highly recommend this book not only for social workers, but also for people who want and need to make a change in their lives for better, ensuring that issues related to raising from the bottom can be solved.
Quotes from the book:
„We’ve all fallen, and we have the skinned knees and bruised hearts to prove it. But scars are easier to talk about than they are to show, with all the remembered fillings laid bare. And rarely do we see wounds that are in the process of healing.”
„Creating is the act of paying attention to our experiences and connecting the dots so we can learn more about ourselves and the world around us.”
„The ego doesn’t own stories or want to write new endings; it denies emotion and hates.”
„Many confabulations are less the result of heath or memory issues and more about the interplay of emotion, behavior, and thought.”
„Setting boundaries means getting clear on what behaviors are okay and what’s not okay. Integrity is key to this commitment because it’s how we set those boundaries and ultimately hold ourselves and others accountable for respecting them.”
„The difference between shame and guilt lies in the way we talk to ourselves. Shame is a focus on self, while guilt is a focus on behavior. „
„Being curious aligns with my values. Being mean is outside of my integrity.”